I once heard someone say that the only people who like change are wet babies but I’m not sure this is true. Little Miss certainly doesn’t enjoy having her nappy changed. She wriggles, rolls over and speedily crawls away.
I have a similar approach to change. I like it but only when I am in control. When I’m not, then I too, twist and turn and try to make my escape!
I’m using reusable nappies more and more now. I tried the ones my friend gave me and grew in confidence. I then discovered my local council (Hertfordshire) run a scheme where they give parents FREE reusable nappies – I love our Totsbots ‘bumbrella’ nappy.
I was shocked to discover that 4% of UK landfill is nappies and so I’m keen to reduce our use of disposables, and the ones we do have are Naty – an ‘eco nappy’. We’re also using Naty wipes and biodegradable nappy bags.
I much prefer Cheeky Wipes reusable wipes which are not only kinder to our beautiful world but they are more efficient!
September is a month of change for Family Pilgrim as new routines, relationships and responsibilities begin. For all four of us, there will be change to our days. My year of maternity leave ends and I am returning to my paid employment with a mixture of emotions: excitement, apprehension, guilt and sadness. Small Boy starts nursery at our local primary school and both Small Boy and Little Miss will be looked after by a childminder for some of the week.
I hope I am returning to work with increased skills, wisdom and maturity and I am confident that Small Boy and Little Miss will thrive in their childcare settings but I know there are going to be challenges along the way for all of us. For me, I need to manage my different responsibilities and time wisely.
I found this image on the Mind and Soul Facebook page this week with the heading ‘Getting ready to go back to school? What are your best MH (mental health) tips for the new term?‘ It’s good advice for us as a family as we navigate the newness of the month – rest, exercise, good food and fun activities will help us adjust well.
One of the things I have discovered in the past 12 months is the power of small changes. Last September started with one big change as Little Miss joined Family Pilgrim but as we have sought to live more justly, we have made many small changes, including:
- Buying vegetables and meat from a local farm
- Asking ‘who made our clothes?’ when shopping
- Stopped buying items from Amazon
- Taking reusable cups with us to church
- Buying Method laundry detergent and cleaning products
- Using the Ecosia search engine
- Using the Tearfund weekly prayer resource
- Sending emails and signing petitions – from a ban on selling seahorses on Etsy to the Woodland Trust tree charter to Amnesty’s campaign to urge the Maldives to not reinstate the death penalty
The small changes I have made give me hope and confidence that I can continue to adapt and grow. Things don’t have to be the same!
So – because I like lists and actions – here are three mini challenges for the autumn:
- Hit the pause button regularly throughout the day – stop, listen, look, breathe and pray
- Create not consume when feeling sad or stressed
- Love: the apostle Paul wrote: ‘If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.’ If I buy fair trade, avoid single-use plastics, lobby my MP, eat organic meat but do not have love, I gain nothing.
And what is love? Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.